When Life Throws a Curveball: How to Work With It, Not Against It
At the start of the new year, I was ready. After my trips to Egypt and Costa Rica, I came back with a renewed sense of purpose and a deeper understanding that I am my own master. I had this grand vision of carrying that energy into my work, fully diving into my Sacred Sensuality course, creating with focus and momentum.
But then… life happened.
Instead of charging full steam ahead, I found myself on an unexpected detour—radiation treatment.
Slowing down more than I anticipated, I initially saw it as an obstacle, a nuisance, not part of the plan.
But here’s the thing about plans: they’re just ideas we impose on reality. Reality, however, tends to have its own agenda.
At first, I resisted. I felt frustrated. This wasn’t supposed to be how my year started! But the more I fought it, the harder it felt. Until I stopped. Until I asked:
What if this isn’t a roadblock? What if this is part of the experience?
What if this detour wasn’t working against me, but actually offering me an opportunity to listen more deeply to my body and my needs?
And then it hit me. This was the very lesson I had been working on all along: living authentically and freely, not just following what my mind says I "should" do, but truly listening to my heart and body.
The biggest illusion we operate under is that we must do things a certain way, that we have no choice, that if we don’t push forward, we’ll somehow fail or fall apart.
But in reality, we have more choices than we think.
Most of what we believe is urgent or necessary is just the nervous system clinging to survival patterns.
We are not in danger. We are just in discomfort.
And here’s the key—when you realize you always have a choice, you stop being a victim of life and become the master of your experience.
And when you’re the master, the suffering lessens instantly. Why? Because you're no longer fighting reality. Instead, you’re working with it.
How to Work With Life’s Detours Instead of Resisting Them
Pause & Get Curious
When life interrupts your plans, notice your reaction. Are you feeling frustrated? Scared? Angry? Instead of spiraling, pause and ask yourself: What if this isn’t a roadblock? What if this is part of the experience? What might life be asking you to see, feel, or learn.Question the Illusion of "No Choice"
Many of us push through because we feel like we have to—because if we don’t, something terrible will happen. But is that actually true? What would really happen if you slowed down, shifted direction, or approached things differently? What if the only real consequence is temporary discomfort, not disaster?Listen to Your Heart & Body, Not Just Your Mind
The mind is full of "shoulds." It wants control. But your body knows what it needs. Your heart knows what feels right. If your body is screaming for rest and your mind is pushing for productivity, which voice do you think truly has your best interest at heart?Reframe the Detour
Instead of seeing life’s interruptions as problems, view them as redirections. Maybe slowing down isn’t ruining your momentum—it’s guiding you toward a more sustainable and aligned way forward. Maybe what you thought was an obstacle is actually an initiation into a new level of self-trust.Give Yourself Permission to Do Things Differently
What if you chose to honor where you are instead of forcing yourself to stay on a rigid path? Could you allow yourself the flexibility to adapt while still holding your goals with intention? Growth isn’t about grinding through—it’s about knowing when to push and when to pause.
We tend to think that control equals safety. That if we don’t keep pushing forward, everything will fall apart. But sometimes, the most powerful thing we can do is step back, listen, and trust that life is unfolding exactly as it should.
Your nervous system might resist at first, but that discomfort isn't a sign that you're failing—it's a sign that you're stepping into something new.
Discomfort is part of growth. It’s the space between the old way of being and the new way of trusting.
So the next time life throws a curveball, instead of tightening your grip and forcing your way through, try softening. Try listening.
Try working with life instead of against it.
You might just find that the detour was the path all along. 💫
